Attachement, Bonding & Identity Changes

Understanding Perinatal Attachment, Bonding & Identity Changes

Becoming a parent is one of the most profound transitions in life. During the perinatal period—the time from pregnancy through the first year after birth—many parents experience unexpected emotional and psychological changes. It’s normal to feel joy and excitement, but also confusion, anxiety, or even disconnection from your baby or yourself. These feelings are more common than many people realise, and you are not alone in experiencing them.

Attachment and bonding refer to the emotional connection that forms between a parent and their baby. This bond doesn’t always happen instantly—it can take time, especially if birth was traumatic or if you’re coping with mental health challenges such as postnatal depression or anxiety. Therapy can support you in understanding these feelings, creating space to strengthen your connection with your baby and nurture yourself as a parent.

Alongside these shifts in connection, many parents experience significant identity changes. You may feel like you've lost parts of your previous self, or be unsure of who you are now. These identity shifts can be disorienting, particularly in a world that often expects you to adjust quickly. Speaking with a perinatal psychologist can help you explore this new phase of life with compassion and clarity, gently helping you reconnect with your values, strengths, and sense of self.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure about who you are as a parent, therapy can offer understanding and relief. Working with a specialist who understands the emotional complexities of the perinatal period can make a meaningful difference. You deserve support, and with the right help, it is possible to feel more grounded, connected, and confident in your parenting journey.